While the world in general, and men at large, are becoming much more open-minded, there is still a huge variance in individual opinions. There is a great likelihood that your boyfriend will be turned on, rather than offended, by you suggesting bringing a dildo or vibrator into the bedroom. However, if he's never been the adventurous type, you might need to manage the way you introduce the topic carefully. Today we run through a list of do's and don'ts for introducing a dildo into your sex life with your partner. The two of you will be buzzing away together before you know it!

If you want to introduce a dildo to the bedroom, you SHOULD:

• Talk to him about it before you act on your wishes: While this is the 21st century, and women are certainly free to do whatever they like, it is respectful to involve him in a decision about something that is about the two of you together. You could make a suggestion to him while having sex about what you could be using a dildo for at that moment, or simply bring it up over coffee! Whatever suits your style.
• Make sure your partner knows that you are satisfied with your sex life, and will be even without a dildo: Don't make your partner think that a dildo is a requirement to satisfying you. Let them know that they are enough for you, but you are curious about what the two of you together could experience with a dildo.
• Look them up online first: This is a great way to explore what is out there in a relaxed and comfortable setting.
• Check out pornos that show dildo play: This is a great way to both gauge his reaction to dildos, and get him interested in actually using one!
• Really listen to what your partner has to say about dildos: If you run up against objections from your boyfriend, listen and be understanding. Don't take it as a personal attack, try to find a way to work through his objections.

If you want to introduce a dildo to the bedroom, you SHOULD NOT:

• Buy it before you introduce it: This will only create mistrust with your partner - even if it is not true, they may believe that you've had it for a long time or have been using it without them. Being surprised isn’t usually a turn-on!
• Make any hint or suggestion that you need a dildo because your partner isn’t up to scratch: Suggesting that your partner isn’t big enough for you, can't last long enough for you, or is inadequate in any other way will only make him feel insulted, not excited.
• Ignore your partner once you get the dildo: Make sure that playing with the dildo (once you get to the part!), is a two-person job. Have him thrust it or tickle you with it … don't just get down to business with yourself and leave him in the lurch.

Introducing a dildo into your sex life could be one of the best things you've ever done. It can help women orgasm more reliably and quickly, and open up whole new fantasy dimensions. Take the first steps carefully, and you'll be well on your way to exploring new frontiers in pleasure!