The discovery of the clitoris marked the dawn of a new age in sexual gratification, but finding the darn thing turned out to be harder than it looked.  To this day men poke, prod and knuckle unsuccessfully at their partners nether regions, but to make things worse there is a new erogenous zone that is even more elusive than the clitoris.  I hear many of you guys out there saying “Here we go again”, and to be honest you should be worried, because the G-Spot is a son of a B-I-T-C-H to find. 

The G-Spot was discovered in the 50’s by a physician named Dr Ernst Grafenberg and made fashionable by sex experts and therapists in the 80’s.  So it did take a long time to catch on, but mostly because there was so little plausible research done on the topic. 

The G-Spot

The G-Spot is a bean shaped zone of skin and nerves located inside a woman’s vagina.  It is generally found 1 – 2.5 inches upwards on the anterior wall of the vagina behind the pubic bone.  It can be described as a grainy tissue like area of skin that is rougher than the surrounding area.  Swelling of the G-Spot is considered normal during arousal or excess blood flow, which makes it considerably easier to find. 

How do I find it?

My Mum always told me that if you want something done right, you have to do it yourself and the same goes for the G-Spot.  The better you get at finding it yourself, the easier it will be to teach somebody else to find it next time. 

Start by purchasing a decent G-Spot vibrator or Probe.  You will know they are purpose built for G-Spot stimulation because they will be crescent shaped or have a slightly angled tip.   Lie down on your back on your bed or on the floor with your feet against a wall.  If your feet are in the air, they are going to get tired pretty quickly. Slowly insert the sex toy into your vagina with the crescent or curved tip facing the belly-button side.  Use the tip of the toy to rub the frontal vaginal wall, until you feel aroused.  Remove the toy from the vagina, insert your middle finger and gently feel around for an area of skin that is inflamed and/or feels rougher than the surrounding area.  That is your G-Spot.  The first time you press on this area it may feel like you are urinating or need to urinate, but this is normal.  This sensation is usually replaced by explosive arousal. 

Once you have discovered where it is, play around with various methods of stimulation until you figure out what is good for you.  Some people enjoy gentle vibrating stimulation that you would get from a sex toy and others prefer to use their fingers, both have a very different feel.

Your penis, my G-Spot

The penis is a great tool to stimulate the G-Spot. Why do you think God created penises with a slight bend?  If the penis curves upwards and straight, it is ideal for G-Spot stimulation.  During sex it will rub over the erogenous zone and stimulate it without having to do much more.  Not all men are built with a perfectly shaped penis so you may have to adjust positions depending on whether his member faces north, south, east or west.  In most cases they will only be slight adjustments, but will make an immense difference. 

If you are still struggling to find your G-Spot try reading “The Smart Girls Guide to the G-Spot” by Violet Blue.  It gives a straight forward look at different tips and techniques designed to stimulate the G-Spot.

Searching for the G-Spot is like a hunt for the Holy Grail.  Its elusiveness is less than charming, but once you discover it you will be spellbound by what it has to offer.   Don’t give up prematurely; it is worth every minute of the wait.  Good Luck!